Mean People vs. Nice People

This is another blog from my former myspace blog, dated 9 Aug 2007. It has great relevance in my life right now so I thought I would repost it to try to help me deal with some recent pain I have been through from someone dear to my heart who I never, ever would have believed would step from the nice side over to the mean side. Or maybe I subconsciously did always know it but did not want to face it.



There are two types of people in this world: Nice people and Mean people. It is as simple as that....absolutely black and white.

Nice people care about the feelings of others, show compassion and share honest emotions.

Mean people are spiteful, uncompassionate and generally lack a deep conscience.

These two types of people meet all the time. In families....in work...in school...you will find these two basic types of people everywhere. These characteristics do not have any race, colour or creed. They are within everyone. You are either nice or you are mean. And when faced with each other, conflict and strife generally occur.

Now, can the mean person become nice? Or can the nice person become mean? Sometimes, yes. Certain aspects of either personality can manifest in anyone. A mean person can pretend to be nice. A nice person can behave in a mean way. But at the core, the result is still the same....you are either nice, or you are mean.

When a mean person behaves nicely, it is usually an act. It is what they want others to perceive them as or it is what they want to be but cannot truly achieve so they pretend. But when a nice person behaves in a mean way, they generally struggle with their conscience and feel badly for their behaviour, and learn from it and strive to change it.

If a mean person does change and completely stops the inner meanness, then they probably were never truly a mean person to begin with.

There is hope for everyone of course, but I have come to accept that those who are mean tend to stay that way and they are being who they are: Mean.

But I love watching the success stories unfold and seeing the nice people who behave in a mean way, all of a sudden have a lightbulb moment and begin to alter the mean behaviours and become the nice person they were born to be.

A nice person is who I was born to be and for that I am grateful.